Now what happens to the children who suffer from divorce? The child’s performance lowers in every aspect of life. Their grades drop, and there are more behavioral problems present. The child has an increased rate of drug abuse and suicide. Now, just because parents get a divorce does not mean their children will suffer without a doubt from these effects.
There are many reasons divorce occurs. The usual causes said by Kota Baharu are: poor communication, financial problems, a lack of commitment to the marriage, a dramatic change in priorities, or infidelity. Three of these causes I feel could be prevented. Prevention of divorce is a very tricky topic. How can we lower the divorce rate, and not take away the liberties of the people? It is scary to even consider the government playing a role in love, but with the divorce rate so high there should be an increase in programs to help these couples, and future married couples.
A specific program that could help lower the divorce would be a counseling class for those considering marriage. In order for them to be married, they should have to attend a couple sessions. Marriage is work, and this class could teach the couple how hard it can be sometimes. It should help them prepare for everything they will have to go through together. If the couple were truly in love, pre-marriage sessions would not be that big of deal. The couple should almost be happy to learn more about each other.
I know that there are cases where divorce needs to happen. If any kind of abuse is happening the partner being abused needs to leave the situation that causes them harm. Ultimately though, a great deal of bad marriages could be saved or prevented, if we use some kind of governmental program. In order to protect children and the future, we should greatly consider starting a divorce program.
I agree with you that something needs to be done about the high divorce rates. I think for parents it’s an easy outlet if they are having problems that they don’t want to deal with. Unfortunately, they aren’t thinking about the kids, if they have any, when they decide to get a divorce. This is sad because having both parents around is such a big deal for children. When they’re separated from a parent, children can experience devastating effects such as blaming themselves, depression, or guilt. I also agree pre-marriage counseling is a good idea. People need to truly know what they’re getting into and not just follow through with a spur of the moment idea they had. Post-marriage classes would be a good thing to require as well. Many people after years of marriage forget why it is they got married in the first place. Sessions after a couple is married could refresh their memory of why it is they love each other and get them to work at fixing their problems.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you and Emily and I think it’s ridiculous how many people are getting divorced lately. While the government cannot take away our rights to get married, I like this idea of programs and pre-marital counseling to maybe prevent divorce. I also think a lot of people who get married don’t consider it to be the commitment that it is. I’m not sure that sessions after a couple is married are beneficial but usually counseling is considered before taking the step of divorce. This is a tricky topic because there’s not a lot the government can do about divorce rates without infringing on liberties.
ReplyDeleteI think the divorce rate is way too high also. Marriage isn’t something to be rushed into and should only occur when you are absolutely certain that that is the person for you. As for the classes, some churches require them before you can be married in their faith. For example, the Catholic church very strongly entourages couples to go to at least some form of counseling with a priest. There are also nonreligious places couples can go. There are sites on the internet have some of the same questions that are asked by the councilors if the couple wants to spend the time looking at them. I think the classes really come down to the preparation that a couple put into the thought of marriage.
ReplyDeleteIn the church where I am from, there is a program where if a couple asks to be married in the church they are required to first complete sessions with the priest so it is known that the couple is committed to each other and will be a “good” couple. I think there is a possibility to make this process governmental. I just don’t know how that would be done because if any couple wanted to they could run off to Vegas, get into some shenanigans and come back with a new devotion to their significant other. I think too often a couple will file for divorce and not think before they result to such a process. They simply run out of steam and don’t do something about it. There is a solution hiding somewhere… we just have to find it. I think it should be a requirement that if a couple files for divorce they must be seen individually by a counselor and then if there are no signs of harm, physically or mentally, then they should have to see a counselor together and if things still weren’t okay, the counselor could grant the opportunity for divorce.
ReplyDeleteI agree that there are steps that could and probably should be taken to help do something about this staggering divorce rate, but implementing a mandatory, government-regulated counseling program is not the right way in my opinion. By most accounts, at least to my knowledge, marriages coincide with a religious ceremony, and if you bring in a governmentally required program to go in part with this, you open a door to a whole world of separation of church and state arguments that have no business being involved with marriage. I like what Allie said about churches doing a counseling session before the church and the associated clergy will take part in the marriage. If something like this became a more widespread occurrence I feel that this could help turn a portion of the potential divorces into fruitful, happy, lifelong partnerships.
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